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Honesty & The Slave

March 10th, 2008

boots.pngHonesty. Honesty is tricky.

Honesty in a relationship is a two part thing. First you have to be honest with yourself, and then you have to be honest with your lover. The first part of that is often the hardest to achieve. The second part is the more frightening.

The thing is, right, that femdom has always been part of our relationship. From the moment she danced close with another man at a party, looking me straight in the eye as she did so, gauging, and finding pleasure, in my reaction, it’s been there.

But it’s always been a game. That’s what we call it - a “game” or “playing games”. But that’s not true. That’s not honest.

The problem is that deeply and fundamentally, I was attracted to her because she’s dominant and because her inclinations are dominant. It’s a fundamental part of how I feel about her, deeply entwined in the way I love her. This isn’t just a fantasy we act out sometimes - it’s part of what our relationship is. I don’t play at being her slave. I am her slave.

I’ve only just realised this. And, honesty demands that I talk it through with her. Where will this lead? Maybe everywhere. Maybe nowhere.

I’ll let you know.

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Does the Internet shape Submissives?

December 2nd, 2007

Sometimes (just sometimes) I wonder if the internet wasn’t the worst thing to happen to yer average submissive guy on the street.

Do the fetishes and forms of femdom that dominate (haha) the internet discourse represent the mainstream of the kink? Or do they determine it by shaping young submissives’ fantasies as they read about other people’s turn-ons?

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