I’m sorry for the extended silence here, and the rather patchy posting before that. A family member was taken ill and sadly died not long after. I’ve been busy dealing with that and, as you guys can appreciate, wasn’t much in the mood for exploring this side of my life.
However, my mistress and I are in the process of taking some tentative steps back into a more “interesting” relationship, and I’ll do my best to share that here… 
Incidentally, this blog is in a brand new home, as I was approached by the Wordpress.com guys for http://subscribe.wordpress.com to use for their new comment subscribe functionality. I’d planned on moving to self-hosted Wordpress anyway, so welcome to the new digs. Do you like ‘em?
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Muere por mi
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Scary. Sexy. Cool.
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Just enough haughty confidence to press all the right buttons.
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The FetLife social network
While browsing my favourite blogs, I found a mention of FetLife, a new social network for, well, kinky folks.
Try thinking of Facebook or MySpace, except with more kink and chains. It looks promising. It’s easy to find people in your basic geographic area, which would be great for forming friendships or relationships, and the rapidly growing group areas look like they’re turning into mini-forums. Could be a lot of fun.
Anyway, feel free to check out my profile and add me as a friend.
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BBC News covers Britain's S&M scene
Our little pastime has attracted sudden interest in the UK. All it takes is for one micro-celebrity to be caught in a little paid submission, and suddenly everyone’s interested in what we do.
The article’s enough to make one laugh out loud, though:
“Most clients I see are submissive - they want me to be in control,” she says. “When a client walks through the door I will have them strip and kneel on the floor in front of me - they will not even question that.”
What follows depends on what has been previously agreed, but Faith is adamant that she offers not just the indulgence of a fantasy, but therapy that helps those who are distressed by their fetish - or disappointed when the reality of their fantasy fails to live up to expectations.
Now, perhaps I’m biased, because I’m very much a relationship-based submissive, and the idea of going to see a pro-domme just does not appeal, but this seems a rather narrow view of a much more complicated subject…
To be fair, the article goes into more depth later on: Read more…
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Zoë Hong: leather dress w/ silk charmeuse top and paniers
I can’t be the only one who finds some of the normal leather “mistress wear” a little, well, predictable, can I?
I do like looking for alternative suppliers to suggest to my mistress, and Zoë Hong’s new range, as shown on her website, are simply stunning: sophisticated, fashionable and sexy.
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designerwear, dominant fashion, leather
Just done a purge and update of my Blogroll.
Is it me, or do BDSM blogs have an even shorter shelf life than normal blogs?
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Stupid, strange question that crosses my mind as I read my way around the blogs this evening: do they count as porn?
The majority of the blogs I read have little, if any, explicit material. They are more concerned with relationship than hot genital to genital action. Sure, they’re sexual by their very nature.
But are they porn?
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blogging, porn
I think I’m about to let down femdom bloggers everywhere. The post title makes this post sound like it’ll be about trying our some fun new kink.
Err, no.
I’m just struggling to keep up this blog due to family stresses right now, but I don’t want to let it die. But while I’m waiting for my writer’s block to pass, I thought I’d try something new:
The Sub Scribe’s Scrapbook.
It’s just a compilation of interesting stuff I find around the web that plays to my submissive side. Feel free to swing by, see what you think, and discuss what you see.
And hopefully I’ll be back here with original content of my own soon.
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Honesty. Honesty is tricky.
Honesty in a relationship is a two part thing. First you have to be honest with yourself, and then you have to be honest with your lover. The first part of that is often the hardest to achieve. The second part is the more frightening.
The thing is, right, that femdom has always been part of our relationship. From the moment she danced close with another man at a party, looking me straight in the eye as she did so, gauging, and finding pleasure, in my reaction, it’s been there.
But it’s always been a game. That’s what we call it - a “game” or “playing games”. But that’s not true. That’s not honest.
The problem is that deeply and fundamentally, I was attracted to her because she’s dominant and because her inclinations are dominant. It’s a fundamental part of how I feel about her, deeply entwined in the way I love her. This isn’t just a fantasy we act out sometimes - it’s part of what our relationship is. I don’t play at being her slave. I am her slave.
I’ve only just realised this. And, honesty demands that I talk it through with her. Where will this lead? Maybe everywhere. Maybe nowhere.
I’ll let you know.
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