Comments on: When it all goes wrong… http://www.sub-scribe.net/2007/12/08/when-it-all-goes-wrong/ One submissive's life with Mistress Fri, 16 Jul 2010 07:54:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Tom Allen http://www.sub-scribe.net/2007/12/08/when-it-all-goes-wrong/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Tom Allen Fri, 11 Jan 2008 19:29:58 +0000 http://subscribe.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/when-it-all-goes-wrong/#comment-7 In the last year or so, I can think of about three or four blogs (including the one you mentioned) in which the relationship seems to have headed south, at least partially because of the change in the relationship. I tend to think that the man tends to push things along (all the blogs I'm thinking of were written by men), but in reading some of the early posts, I get the impression that some of the relationships were already on shaky ground. Femdom, chastity, and FLR are not "fixes" for a poor relationship, yet I think that's exactly how things are perceived by some men. "Oh, a little spicing up in the bedroom is what we need" and that kind of thing seems to be the thinking here. As I tell people in the male chastity groups all the time - if your relationship is not doing well, and if you're already not communicating with your partner, then hanging $200 worth of plastic from your genitals is certainly not going to make things better. In the last year or so, I can think of about three or four blogs (including the one you mentioned) in which the relationship seems to have headed south, at least partially because of the change in the relationship. I tend to think that the man tends to push things along (all the blogs I’m thinking of were written by men), but in reading some of the early posts, I get the impression that some of the relationships were already on shaky ground. Femdom, chastity, and FLR are not “fixes” for a poor relationship, yet I think that’s exactly how things are perceived by some men. “Oh, a little spicing up in the bedroom is what we need” and that kind of thing seems to be the thinking here.

As I tell people in the male chastity groups all the time – if your relationship is not doing well, and if you’re already not communicating with your partner, then hanging $200 worth of plastic from your genitals is certainly not going to make things better.

]]> By: surrendered2princess http://www.sub-scribe.net/2007/12/08/when-it-all-goes-wrong/comment-page-1/#comment-6 surrendered2princess Thu, 13 Dec 2007 10:26:36 +0000 http://subscribe.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/when-it-all-goes-wrong/#comment-6 I didn't know about that blog, but I read the last post and it got me into thoughts. I always knew that it might be dangerous to decide to alter your life, and your relationship with the one you love, that much. But when you actually see something like that happening to other people, then the idea gets much more frightening. On the other hand, I believe that if both parts are conscious of their true needs and desires, if they respect and understand each other and, most importantly, if the main ingredient in their relationship is pure and true love, then it's easy to find a destination which is enjoyable for both. I didn’t know about that blog, but I read the last post and it got me into thoughts. I always knew that it might be dangerous to decide to alter your life, and your relationship with the one you love, that much. But when you actually see something like that happening to other people, then the idea gets much more frightening.

On the other hand, I believe that if both parts are conscious of their true needs and desires, if they respect and understand each other and, most importantly, if the main ingredient in their relationship is pure and true love, then it’s easy to find a destination which is enjoyable for both.

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