When it all goes wrong…
December 8th, 2007
This is a chastening post. A blog goes quiet, and then a sudden, final post explaining that the femdom relationship has broken up.
I wonder how common this is?
I wonder how many of the blog that start full of excitement and enthusiasm and abruptly end are little virtual graveyards of attempts to build a femdom relationship? Their lack of updates a mute testimony to human dynamics and the fact that an unconventional power exchange is too much for some people.
Something to think about.
I didn’t know about that blog, but I read the last post and it got me into thoughts. I always knew that it might be dangerous to decide to alter your life, and your relationship with the one you love, that much. But when you actually see something like that happening to other people, then the idea gets much more frightening.
On the other hand, I believe that if both parts are conscious of their true needs and desires, if they respect and understand each other and, most importantly, if the main ingredient in their relationship is pure and true love, then it’s easy to find a destination which is enjoyable for both.
In the last year or so, I can think of about three or four blogs (including the one you mentioned) in which the relationship seems to have headed south, at least partially because of the change in the relationship. I tend to think that the man tends to push things along (all the blogs I’m thinking of were written by men), but in reading some of the early posts, I get the impression that some of the relationships were already on shaky ground. Femdom, chastity, and FLR are not “fixes” for a poor relationship, yet I think that’s exactly how things are perceived by some men. “Oh, a little spicing up in the bedroom is what we need” and that kind of thing seems to be the thinking here.
As I tell people in the male chastity groups all the time – if your relationship is not doing well, and if you’re already not communicating with your partner, then hanging $200 worth of plastic from your genitals is certainly not going to make things better.