A common theme in much online writing about cuckolding is the husband requesting that his wife dress like a slut. He might even use those words. He’s wrong. That’s not what he’s asking – he’s asking for something more profound.
At the heart of cuckolding is the twin ideas of transgression and power exchange. We are transgressing society’s rules by violating marriage willingly and by consent. We are violating cultural expectations by placing the make in inferior position.
Why do so many cuckolds crave seeing their wives in sexually aggressive clothes – often described as slutty – during cuckold situations? For all its psychological under pinnings, cuckolding is an inherently sexual act, one that relies on a transformed sexual role for the wife. She gains sexism independence of her husband and that is clearly, visually made real by a choice of clothes that suggest a degree of sexual availability. Cuckold men want to see their wives dress like women looking for a date – or on a hot one- because it reinforces their transgressional marriage.
Where, in a traditional marriage we might she the wife tone down down the sexual elements of her clothing – or a jealous husband request that she does so – as an expression of her relationship, so to can a cuckold couple choose the opposite route to express theirs.
Cuckolding in the fetish sense is a relationship – it has to be or it makes no sense – and clothing choice can be a powerful expression of that. Your cuckold-wannabe husband isn’t asking you to dress like a slut, whatever words online porn has taught him. He asking you to dress like a woman who dresses to enjoy male attention – but on her own terms, and in a way that would be inappropriate for most married women. In short, he just have you permission to have fun with your clothes choices in a way that most married women can’t – and a way to create new intimacy in your marriage even if you never become a true cuckold couple.
As I was travelling home – a little drunk, I’ll admit it – I passed a couple lost in each other at the station. They were kissing deeply, oblivious to all around them, utterly lost in sensation.
And I thought the same thing I always do in those moments of accidental voyeurism:
“I wish that was my wife.”
It doesn’t matter how attractive the woman is, I never imagine myself in her lover’s place. I always, instinctivly, think myself into a moment of cuckold submission.
This isn’t a fantasy I have to work on – it’s deep within me.
On the surface, it’s a harmless game, but it’s roots are in the gender dynamic of our relationship. The game is all about other men. Guys that she finds hot. We will point them out and talk about him and his hotness. That’s it. These guys are always very attractive, but always very manly men. I know my wife and I know what turns her on, and this is a little sexual game we play that turns her on. The reason it is so fun is that it turns me on too. The idea of her lusting after a manly man, but being a part of that lust, turns me on too.
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The “Dom Me” Outfit
Flattering, sexy and feminine. I’d love to kneel in front of my mistress, revelling in the power she carries in this dress. I love the fact that the choker is integrated into the dress as well. I’ve no idea why I find collars to be a submissive thing, but choker to be very, very dominant, but I do.
The “Cuck Me” outfit
There’s something so very sexually aggressive about animal print dresses on a powerful woman. My ideal cuckolding outfit for my wife is one that I would love to see her in, one that I’d love to be out with her in, one that I’d like her to wear for me. And which she keeps just for dating, flirting and sleeping with other men. This dress hits the spot.
What if your wife was never really physically attracted to you?
What if it was always your humiliation and submission that really turned her on?
What if she’s powerfully physically attracted to other men?
What if… this is the path to cuckolding?