A common theme in much online writing about cuckolding is the husband requesting that his wife dress like a slut. He might even use those words. He’s wrong. That’s not what he’s asking – he’s asking for something more profound.
At the heart of cuckolding is the twin ideas of transgression and power exchange. We are transgressing society’s rules by violating marriage willingly and by consent. We are violating cultural expectations by placing the make in inferior position.
Why do so many cuckolds crave seeing their wives in sexually aggressive clothes – often described as slutty – during cuckold situations? For all its psychological under pinnings, cuckolding is an inherently sexual act, one that relies on a transformed sexual role for the wife. She gains sexism independence of her husband and that is clearly, visually made real by a choice of clothes that suggest a degree of sexual availability. Cuckold men want to see their wives dress like women looking for a date – or on a hot one- because it reinforces their transgressional marriage.
Where, in a traditional marriage we might she the wife tone down down the sexual elements of her clothing – or a jealous husband request that she does so – as an expression of her relationship, so to can a cuckold couple choose the opposite route to express theirs.
Cuckolding in the fetish sense is a relationship – it has to be or it makes no sense – and clothing choice can be a powerful expression of that. Your cuckold-wannabe husband isn’t asking you to dress like a slut, whatever words online porn has taught him. He asking you to dress like a woman who dresses to enjoy male attention – but on her own terms, and in a way that would be inappropriate for most married women. In short, he just have you permission to have fun with your clothes choices in a way that most married women can’t – and a way to create new intimacy in your marriage even if you never become a true cuckold couple.